What is it? Ever since I watched “The Secret,” I have been fascinated by The Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction is scientifically proven in Quantum Physics. What has been discovered in Quantum Physics, is that thoughts can be measured and interpreted to a frequency which attracts a match of what you are thinking about. Basically your thoughts are like magnets, and like attracts like- good thoughts attract more good and bad thoughts attract more bad. This is one of the basic ideas I teach to the clients who come to see me for Life Coaching at my Practice in Bedfordshire.
The reason why this happens is simply because everything in the universe is made up of energy, even the most solid thing at a solid cellular quantum level, is just energy that is popping in and out of existence. Your thoughts are also made up of energy and every time you think one it travels around 250,000 miles into the universe. Your thought will then attract to you whatever was in the content of your thought. As a metaphorical example, when you put an item on Ebay, lets say you are selling NLP Training, anyone who is interested in buying NLP Training will be directed to your Ebay listing, because you had stated what you are selling (put your energy there) they had stated what they wanted to buy (put their energy there) and they saw your advert and bought your training (attracted to each other).
I’ve always joked that there are only two kinds of state, the right state and a right state! Now, knowing what we’ve learned from the Law of Attraction, it seems that this is actually true. You will always be attracting what you are thinking about (ever been thinking of an old friend and had them call you later that week?) If you’re thinking about the things that you want, you are much more likely to attract what you want, if you’re thinking about what you don’t want, your going to attract what you don’t want. The Law of Attraction doesn’t distinguish between what is good for you or what is bad for you, it’s simple. You get more of what you focus on. Life coaching is a really effective way of focusing your attention, and at my Life Coaching practice near Bedfordshire, I am able to strategically teach these skills.
“You get what you focus on” is really nothing new to us, the challenge is that most of us have got really good at focusing on what we don’t want, and getting more of it. Some of us are able to spend some time thinking about what we do want, and some of the time thinking about what we don’t want,and that creates a flat. It’s not good, it’s not bad, it’s just ok. And a few people (Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Donald Trump, Alan Sugar, Anita Roddick etc) have got really good at attracting what they actually want. These people do not live in a different universe to you or I, we are all on the same planet with the same opportunities. The difference is that they see more of them! That’s why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
That’s great, how do I start attracting what I want?!
There’s a bit more to it than thinking positive, as you’ve heard me say at the free NLP event, positive thinking is not enough, you also need to take action. So, you know that you must have in mind what you want (your goal). consider the following conversations which take part in a travel agents.
Travel Agent: “Hello, can I help you?”
Customer : “I don’t want to put up with this weather anymore!”
TA: “Ok, are you looking to go away?”
C: “I need a break from work”
TA: “So, would you like to book something?”
C: “I’m fed up with feeling tired and cold!”
TA: “Do you want to book a holiday?”
C: “I haven’t got any money either. .”
TA: “DO YOU WANT SOME HOLIDAY INFORMATION?”
C: “I don’t seem to be getting anywhere here. Forget about it, I’m going home!”
There are a couple of things happening in the above conversation. Firstly, the Customer hasn’t stated what they want from the Travel Agent. Secondly, the Customer is telling the Travel Agent what they don’t want, and thirdly, the Travel Agent is unable to provide what the Customer wants. Now consider the conversation from the perspective of the Travel Agent being the Universe, and the Customer being you. How many times in the past have you wanted something and not got it?
TA: “Hello, how can I help you?”
C: “I want to go on holiday.”
TA: “When would you like to go?”
C: “I’ve got a week off from 29th February 2008, so then.”
TA: “Where would you like to go?”
C: “Spain.”
TA: “Where in Spain, specifically?”
C: “Majorca, a 3 star hotel, bed and breakfast.”
TA: “Who will be going with you?”
C: “My husband. Just the two of us.”
TA: “How much would you like to spend?”
C: “Less than £800.00″
TA: “Where will your journey start? Gatwick, Heathrow, Luton or Stansted?”
C: “Luton is nearer, but I’m able to be flexible if it means going on holiday.”
TA: “How will you pay for it?”
C: “Credit card?”
TA: “Ok, I have a holiday on the system, it’s one week in Majorca in a 3 star hotel, flying from Luton on 29th February 2008. It’s all inclusive instead of bed and breakfast and will cost £839.00 for both you and your husband. have a look at the picture and tell me what you feel about that.”
C: “Splendid, I’ll book it now.”
This time, the customer, knew what she wanted. She stated what she wanted (instead of what she didn’t want) and because she had already thought about the questions the travel agent would ask, she was able to answer them and got a result.
So as well as stating what you want in the positive, you need to consider the questions and points the travel agent made:
What do you want to attract?
When do you want it?
Where will you be when you’ve got it?
Who will be with you?
What will it cost you?
Where or how will you start?
What resources will you need? How will you pay for it?
Can you be flexible?
The above questions enable you to get really specific about what it is that you want, or in the context of a holiday, specific about your destination. When you book your holiday, you don’t necessarily know how you will get there, most of us don’t enquire about the flight path that the plane will take, and we don’t need to. We trust that the pilot will get us there in the safest and quickest way. The same applies to your goal, you don’t need to know how you will get there, you just need to know where you are going and belief that you will get there within your given time frame. Let your unconscious mind be the pilot. Trust it will get you there in the safest and quickest way by presenting to you the opportunities you need to make the goal happen. Having belief is extremely important at this stage. If ever I come across a client who’s belief isn’t 100%, I use my Life Coaching skills and NLP skills to do a belief change intervention.
There is a part of your brain called the RAS (Reticular Activating System) which is a filter that takes instruction from you conscious mind about the things you should be paying attention to. If your goal is to own a BMW and to swan around Bedfordshire so that everyone can see you in it, and you’re constantly, consciously thinking and day dreaming about owning a BMW and driving through the streets of Bedfordshire, the RAS is the part of your mind that brings every BMW for sale advert, BMW garage in Bedfordshire and passing BMW car into your awareness.
You must always keep in mind how it is that you’ll know when you’ve got what you want (BMW on the drive, keys in my hand, ownership document in my name, driving around the streets of Bedfordshire) otherwise you’ll never know when you’ve achieved your goal. There will be no exit strategy, and the destination will become unclear. If the pilot taking you on your holiday doesn’t know what the destination is or how he’ll know that it’s time to land, well that could be a problem couldn’t it?!
If you feel that you are unsure about your destination, Bedfordshire Life Coaching could be the answer. Based near Bedfordshire, I run my Life coaching business from home and use a combination of NLP, Hypnosis and Life Coaching. Life Coaching is an effective way of establishing, where you are in life and where you want to be. Only by using the Life Coaching skills, can you truly discover the path to happiness.
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Gemma Bailey is qualified hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner, registered with the General Hypnotherapy Register (GHR), American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH), British Board of NLP (BBNLP) and American Board of NLP (ABNLP) as well as being a member of the NHS Directory of Complimentary and Alternative Practitioners. She is based in Hemel Hempstead, Hertfordshire and has helped many clients and patients throughout South East England. http://www.gemmabailey.co.uk
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